Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
“He doesn’t mean to hurt me-he just loses control.”
“He can be sweet and gentle.”
“He’s scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he’s a great father.”
“He’s had a really hard life…”
Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with:
The early warning signs
Nine abusive personality types
How to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will
The role of drugs and alcohol
What can be fixed, and what can’t
How to leave a relationship safely
User Ratings and Reviews
5 Stars enlightening
An empowering book, the author makes no excuses for abusive men nor does he engage in blaming victims. Written in plain language with no “psycobabble”.
5 Stars I finally understood
For weeks after my fiance’ returned home drunk one night and began an ordeal that ended with him chasing me down the street as I screamed into the phone to a 911 operator, I wondered what had gone so wrong with my relationship. What had I done? What didn’t I do? After reading this book I realized: nothing. It was not me, it was him. It wasn’t that I wasn’t good enough, or “fun” enough, or sexy enough and there was nothing I could have done that would have made him not cheat on me or not do drugs or any of the other things I blamed myself for.
I truly thank God I found this book. I wholeheartedly recommend it to anyone who has ever been in an abusive relationship.
5 Stars Excellent to help family & friends of abuse victims
I bought this book to help me to understand the situation of my sister, who is divorcing her abuser. Goal accomplished! On page after page, I saw my brother-in-law’s behavior. Lundy Bancroft hits so many points with unerring accuracy. He seems to have an insight into that most scary place, the abuser’s mind.
5 Stars A must-read for Stephanie Meyer fans
I recommend this book all the time for fans of the Twilight series by Stephanie Meyer.
5 Stars Excellent Book
As a therapist, I found this to be the best book I have ever read on understanding men who are batterers and controllers. I highly recommend this book to anyone who really wants to understand, “Why?” I was really surprised when I found out a man had written the book! Lundy Bancroft really calls it like it is. A must read for anyone who wants to look inside the mind of men who control and who abuse women.
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